The Third Emotion tends to seek clarification in relationships, but you won’t notice it at first because the 3E is afraid of seeming intrusive and restrains themselves from prolonged discussions about feelings. However, if you initiate a conversation on the topic “How do you feel about me?”, you will probably see a spark of interest in the eyes of the 3E, and then you can expect a long discussion (“mulling over something incomprehensible”) on this topic. At the same time, the 3E may have problems with choosing their words (“weell… I don’t know how to say it… you know what I mean?”), if they really care about you. There will be a lot of questioning intonations and expectant looks, as if the person is hoping for your help in expressing their feelings.
The Third Emotion has a similar reaction to questions like “Why are you feeling down?” or “Why are you so upset? What’s wrong with your voice?”. Most likely, the person will first answer “I don’t know…”, but then they will begin a long introspection, where you will play the role of a patient listener. However, it is important! – do not ask “How do you feel?”, because after this question, there is often a stupor and panicked thoughts trying to understand their feelings at the moment.
The 3E often writes poetry or music, usually at their desk. They may draw or play a musical instrument, or express themselves in another form of art, but only for the purpose of restoring their inner harmony. They are ashamed to present the fruits of their creativity to the public – not because they are imperfect, but because they reveal the inner world of the 3E, which they carefully try to hide.
If you do not communicate with the 3E very closely and suddenly decide to show them friendly attention, you will most likely receive a reaction that resembles fear. This is pleasing to them – deep down; but they do not know how to react correctly in order not to push you away or disappoint you.
The 3E often “freezes” next to people because they are very tense in the presence of strangers, and with close ones, they are intrusive, demanding constant confirmation of closeness, sometimes offended and withdraw into themselves without explaining the reason.